A Glamorous Disorder


“You look ahmmmazing!”

“I wish I could look as good as you.”

Oh you can though. Looking this “good” requires a lot of work though, a lot of drive and a lot of starvation. Sacrificing your own health for the sake of pleasing others…. That’s what it’s all about, right?

I wish I could say that I was making this up when I tell you these things, but I can’t. I have held these thoughts in my head for too long, and if I don’t say them I will be doing my future daughter a disservice.

Some women are blessed with being naturally thin, others are not. Most of my friends that have the thin gene, would love a little extra junk in their trunk. Those that do have the goods, want less of them. In my years earth side I have yet to meet a woman, mother, child who has been completely comfortable in their own skin and in love with their body let alone the number on the scale.

Seven million American women suffer from eating disorders. More than half of us know someone who has one. Disordered eating, body dysmorphia and starvation are more prevalent now than ever before, and what does society do? Egg it on.

Cult followings exist amongst the Ana/Mia community. I am hesitant to tell you the hash tags to look for in fear that you will get sucked into the #thighsthatdonttouch and the #thinspiration that girls young and old seek out to validate their disorder. If everyone is doing it, it’s ok, right? Wrong.

As a group of mothers, sisters and women we need to help our daughters by not encouraging the ideal of thin, and need to start focusing on healthy. I used to think that being thin was all about pleasing men, but as I’ve grown older, I have realized it has very little to do with the opposite sex.

Lets face it, we don’t lose weight and strive for perfection to please men. We strive to be thin to please other women. As women, we want to look “good” so other women gawk at us and want to look like us. While some men prefer thin to curvy, they are rarely the reason we become thin.

Being thin is a glamorous disorder.
No one ever told the clinically depressed girl that “depression sure looks good on you.” No, no one did, but the thin girl with bruises on her shins, wrists the size of a 4th graders gets told repeatedly how good she looks. Society, whether we like it or not is encouraging girls to partake in eating disorders, and we need to stop it.

About the author

Xza Louise Higgins is the founder of MommyCon, creator of The Mommy Dialogues, and punk rock mom to two year old Atticus in the great city of Chicago, IL. She is incredibly passionate about birth options, human rights, and promoting gentle parenting practices.

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  1. Arlene Kalmbach -  April 26, 2013 - 10:21 am


  2. Amanda M S -  May 3, 2013 - 4:08 pm

    Those hashtags like #thinspo….ect are freaking scary! I am disturbed. I came across them accidentally a year or so ago. I didn’t realize there was actual followings! It makes me very sad for those girls to feel that type of pressure.

  3. Naomi -  May 4, 2013 - 2:30 pm

    You make some interesting points your writing is very readable. Most blogs I just tune out fairly quickly!!! I have similar concerns. I love fashion and buy a lot if magazines but these days I have to be careful not to leave them around my house as I don’t want my girls to think this is how they should look and if they don’t they are not pretty it acceptable.

    I have requested you on instagram look out for me please under the name Olive Tree Kids!

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