It’s like an exhale


Writing and scribbling on paper and via this keyboard are like one giant exhale. Whether I am holding in air or thoughts, it is important to breathe a sigh of relief and exhale out all the emotions, feelings and frustration that is pent up inside.

When I started this blog, I wanted to write with a group of like minded mothers so I would be accountable to keep up with a blog. What I got from my blog mates was more than accountability, it was friendship on a very deep level. My “Internet friends” became my real friends, and when we weren’t writing on TMD, we were texting or emailing. Over the course of 18 months, we talked an ungodly amount.

I would set my phone down and come back an hour later to 150 text messages, and my monthly texts soared to well over 35,000 per month whether I replied to every message or not.

As our friendship blossomed,
our following grew, and while my passion for natural parenting flourished, I felt my posts were becoming robotic. The schedule that I created to hold us all accountable, was turning my passion into something that I wasn’t exactly comfortable with.

As I tried to distance myself from the schedule and monotony, I could tell my blog sisters, struggled as well. Life is chaotic, and blogging shouldn’t add to the chaos, it should be a release, or in my case; an exhale.

If you read this blog frequently, you know that we have experienced some changes. We have had writers come and writers go, and as we say goodbye to two more, it has made me realize that I need to exhale more often.

My surroundings are precious. My son is a miracle. My husband is heroic. And this community, TMD, it is a sacred place for all mothers to feel welcome and to reenergize.

Creating TMD was like creating a safe haven for other crunchy moms that just didn’t fit in. Instead of scouring the interwebs for alternatives to the norm, mothers flock here to see a new type of normal. While we say goodbye to writers, our doors are always welcome for others. We will never replace those that have moved on, but we will be welcoming new souls to our community, and work hard to ensure that no mom feels alone in this journey that is motherhood.

That’s why TMD will always be here, it won’t be going away.

About the author

Xza Louise Higgins is the founder of MommyCon, creator of The Mommy Dialogues, and punk rock mom to two year old Atticus in the great city of Chicago, IL. She is incredibly passionate about birth options, human rights, and promoting gentle parenting practices.

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  1. Sarah Taylor -  May 7, 2013 - 11:51 am

    Love your passion and drive Xza!! It is very inspiring to see you continue to move forward with only a bump in the road. ♥♥♥♥

    • Xza Louise -  May 7, 2013 - 12:56 pm

      Thank you Sarah. If life didn’t have bumps in the road it would be really boring! I am excited and hopeful for the future.

  2. Rachel -  May 7, 2013 - 12:43 pm

    Thank you for creating this blog and your commitment to it! I have learned soo much as new mom to a 9 month old little boy from the blog! It was such a pleasure to meet you and the other ladies at MommyCon Phoenix. Thank you for soo much resources! Knowledge is power and knowing what options out there is AWESOME!

    • Xza Louise -  May 7, 2013 - 12:57 pm

      Thank you Rachel! It was wonderful meeting you too! <3

  3. kelly v -  May 7, 2013 - 1:43 pm

    I’m so happy to hear everything will go on. You ladies have taught me a lot, especially in the way of baby wearing. I look forward to continuing learning from you and seeing you in kc!

  4. jayne -  May 7, 2013 - 4:50 pm

    I for one relieved tmd will be continuing as i was getting very nervous about all the b loggers leaving :-
    When you mention new writers joining, can anyone apply?

  5. Marianna -  May 10, 2013 - 11:43 pm

    I love the journey and the desirable Mommy exhale that you illustrate in this single post. Wishing you and the TMD community peace and joy in the path ahead. : )

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