I used to have sweet children. Back when they were tiny & I was able to mold them in any way, shape, or form for a photo op or when their only job was to look adorable sitting in the Target shopping cart so I could upload a brag picture on Facebook. As they have gotten older, they are showing their true personality. This I am not used to.
My oldest is 3 & he acts like a 3 yr. old. He whines. He wants to bring the most random things on errands. He argues about everything. He has to do everything himself, while I stand there & try to remain calm.(Hello, 15 min. to water the plants) All of these things that he is doing that irritate me, are things that he is learning from. And at the same time, I am too.
When I was minus 2 kids, it was easy to go places & pass judgment on the mom who had the 2 loud kids covered in God knows what who was choosing to ignore the pleas for a toy or a box of cookies. “Can’t she control her kids?” I would think, all the while imagining my own children who would wear spotless Mini Boden outfits & sit quietly in the shopping cart while I shopped for organic-only food. I was also 110 lbs. & wearing a DVF wrap dress in these dreams of mine. Obviously I set my goals high. But I digress.
Now I am the mom with the 2 loud children with random food crumbs all over their faces, racing like the wind through the aisles. I am the mom who looks like I work too much & do not shop enough for myself. But that’s ok. Through the whines & the demands, my son is learning about being patient & not getting what he wants every time he asks. At the same time, I am learning patience & to not give in to what he wants every time he asks. It’s a hard lesson for the both of us. Most of the time it’s hard to not give him whatever he is having a melt-down about so I won’t have to listen to it, but what good would I be doing? What lesson am I teaching?
When being with our children, it’s important to remember that our actions & words will be the same actions & words that they use. The more positive that you are now, the less likely things will go wrong in the future. Remember: this is not forever. Soon our children will be adults & we will miss the tantrums & melt-downs. (It’s true!) Try to cherish even the hard times.
What have you learned by being the parent of a toddler? Anything you want to tell the mom’s of babies for when toddler-hood approches? Leave it in the comments!