The twins are 16 months old. I never dreamed we would make it this far.
My plan was to wean by 14 months. Instead I night weaned by 14 months and still nurse during the day. I don’t hate it. I don’t resent them. I love our quiet moments of reconnect.
A normal day for us starts at 6 am. Cormac usually wakes first and nurses immediately. Clara waits patiently for her turn. We go downstairs and Clara gets a cup of almond or soy milk and Cormac has water (he will not drink any milk from a sippy – not even expressed human milk). About nap time (10 am) they each nurse again, one at a time. I take the sleeping one upstairs for their nap and then do the same thing all over again for the other. Wake, eat lunch, do stuff until they nurse again around 3. We also have a snack around 3. Dinner is between 5 and 6 with a shower after and nursing to sleep at 7:30. I don’t night nurse and they no longer expect or demand it.
This is perfect for me. I think it’s perfect for them too. It’s not a rigid schedule, but it’s a steady weaning process that feels right for us. My current goal is to nurse through April and then decide what the next step is. We rarely nurse in public (since I no longer nurse on demand), but I certainly can if we need to. I love my nights without nursing and am thankful to have some of my autonomy back. I’m not in a hurry and I know this isn’t forever.
I love our moments together. I’m so thankful that I didn’t give up when it was the hardest thing I had ever done. Because it was.