For some reason, the world of mothering appears to be divided on one major issue – how we feed our children. This is where we (as the writers of The Mommy Dialogues) stand on this issue:
We are pro-breastfeeding.
This does not mean that we are anti-formula, that we think formula is poison, or that we look down on mothers who formula feed. This means that we know that breastfeeding is hard. We know that as a culture we have lost generations of breastfeeding knowledge and that it is so hard to get that back. We have all breastfed and three of us have formula fed. We know that not all moms breastfeed and we aren’t here to judge your reasons for doing so. We just want to support breastfeeding mothers and to help mothers who are trying and struggling with breastfeeding. We respect all mothers who care for and nurture their children, regardless of how they feed them. We aren’t International Board Certified Lactation Consultants, but we do have experience and will gladly share that with anyone and everyone who wants it.
We support breastfeeding anytime anywhere.
Moms don’t nurse in public to show off their big veiny mammary glands, I can assure you. They nurse in public because their babies got hungry in public. Just as it is completely acceptable for a mother to feed her child a bottle in a public place, it is also acceptable for a mother to breastfeed her child in a public place. If she prefers a cover, and the child allows it, she can certainly nurse covered, but we specifically support nursing without a cover in order to help normalizing breastfeeding.
We support normalizing breastfeeding.
We want people to not think twice when they see a mother sitting on a park bench feeding her baby. We publicly share breastfeeding photos to help support this cause. We are not “showing off” our breastfeeding skills, but trying to show other mothers that breastfeeding is okay. Mothers should not be ashamed of breastfeeding. We do not believe that feeding a baby in any way is a private thing. It is a beautiful, special, bonding thing, but it should never occur in bathrooms for it to be acceptable.
We support supporting each other.
Not all moms choose to breastfeed or are successful at it, but we are all trying to do the best that we can. Putting each other down for the way we feed our children undermines our own dignity and defeats the cause of breastfeeding education. The same is true for formula-feeding mothers who judge and try to shame mothers who breastfeed, share breastfeeding photos, or breastfeed in public places. We believe in mothering, unity, and mutual respect.
We are sick of the mommy wars and would like to put a stop to them.
So for our next photo sharing venture we would love you to share pictures of how you feed your baby. Tell us why you love feeding your child in a sentence or two (no reasons for why you feed this way, just what you love about these moments) and use the hashtag #tmdfeedmybaby on Instagram (themommydialogues) or Twitter (@mommy_dialogues). If you would prefer to be anonymous, you can email email@example.com with your photo. Photos will be accepted until August 12 and all entries (that follow the rules) will be up shortly after.
The rules are:
Picture must be of a feeding baby.
You are not allowed to put yourself down.
You are not allowed to put others down.
Comments that put others down will be deleted and commenter will be blocked.
We believe that whether you feed your child milk or formula, from a breast or a bottle, that feeding your baby in public is always acceptable. We hope you feel that way too and we are excited to share this project with you.