Not Judging.

20130827-162321.jpgWhile I sit here and observe, I am trying not to judge.


I observe you yell at your child.

I observe you calling a woman fat.

I observe you starving yourself.

I observe you sit on your ass all day.

I observe you serve your child a juice box at 9 months old.

I observe you. I stare. What on Earth are you wearing?

I observe you laugh at someones misfortune.

I observe you putting on weight by eating sandwiches for three, because you are pregnant with twins.

I observe you demand things from the people around you.

I observe your ego being boosted.

I observe you losing your hair.

I observe you using a disposable diaper, and not flushing the poop.

I observe you yell at others to boost your own self esteem.

I observe you lying. A lot.


…and the anger I feel, gets pent up inside. I observe. I listen. I watch. I don’t say a word.

Judging isn’t the enemy. Judging another person isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes judging someone for things you feel to the depth of your being are absolutely wrong, is an OK thing. While I try not to judge, I think I need to. I believe that if I see these things occur again, I need to say something.

What do you think? Is judgement an awful thing or a necessary evil?

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About the author

Xza Louise Higgins is the founder of MommyCon, creator of The Mommy Dialogues, and punk rock mom to two year old Atticus in the great city of Chicago, IL. She is incredibly passionate about birth options, human rights, and promoting gentle parenting practices.

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