When is it no longer “cry it out” (CIO)? I have heard my crunchy mom friends say, “Oh he’s two, it’s not called CIO anymore, it’s called ‘go the f to sleep.'” When does that happen though?
I lay here with my beautiful and precocious boy and wonder. I want him to be happy, I don’t want him to cry, but I look at my bed and know that he can’t sleep here forever. In the beginning, I didn’t want to cosleep, but then Atticus decided that bed sharing is what he needed as a wee one. His snuggles and cuddles have always been quite pleasant, but he is now nine months old and not only kicks and punches in the night, he crawls around like a mad man. It’s not safe. He could easily fall off the bed or punch one of us in the eye.
I have attempted putting him in his crib, and it never lasts more than a few hours. He still nurses through the night and I think night weaning is going to happen soon as I am getting a bit worn out from the night feedings. Cosleeping makes those feeds easier, but physically getting out of bed to feed him multiple times per night is not appealing.
But even if he did sleep through the night, how do I get him to stay asleep in his crib? I nurse him to sleep in our bed, then, when he is fast asleep, I lift him into his crib, but it’s like he knows it’s coming. The moment I set him down, he starts to whimper. I try to soothe him with a gentle back rub or shushing, bur it rarely works, so I bring him back to bed where he instantly falls asleep. He doesn’t even require the boob half the time.
I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’ve tried everything and I don’t want to just let him cry. I don’t think–actually, I know–that that is not the solution. What did you do to help your little one sleep in his or her own space?